Single and Not Waiting Response
I recently read a blog post by the woman of the name of Rachel Selinger titled 'Single and Not Waiting'. By the sound of the title, I was thinking it was going to be about a woman who chose to have sex before she was in a committed relationship. Boy, was I wrong.
If you haven't read it yet, put my blog on hold, and take 3 minutes to read hers. The link is here:
http://convergemagazine.com/single-waiting-9283/
Read it? Good. Now we can proceed.
'Single and not waiting' is one of the best pieces I've ever read. Rachel goes on to talk about her singleness and how in today's society, being single is like a disease, how your life begins when you wake up next to your spouse everyday, and how she believes God owes her a boyfriend.
Being a single, young woman in 2014, I fully understand her conflictions. Although I am a recent college student, and only 18 years old, I can see how she may believe that all of these things are true. I sometimes too feel as though being single is comparative to a disease.
Ever since I was old enough to understand the concept of love, love has always been on my radar. Throughout my years in school, particularly 9th-12th grade, I dreamt of having that perfect boyfriend: tall, Christian, honest, good with kids, respectful, etc. But "Mr. Perfect" never showed up in all those years.
Many times, I would come to believe that it was my fault for my "Singleness Disease". I would tell myself things like "Mary, maybe you should be more athletic", "Stop talking so much. You're so annoying", and "Oh gosh, he's looking at me. Don't screw things up, again." I soon came to believe that these phrases were all true.
Other times, when the clock would hit 11:11, I would instantly wish for things like "I wish for a boyfriend before the end of (9th, 10th, etc) grade." Or things like "I wish that I get a date for Homecoming or Prom this year." I felt that without a relationship status on Facebook, I was an outcast.
Why am I bringing back an old, dreadful memory from my high school years? To make a point. Being single is more common than people think, including myself.
Being raised a committed Christian, Catholic to be specific, I believe that being patient and waiting for the right one physically and emotionally, is what God wants us to do. Now, that's all fine and dandy, expect for the fact that I'm SUPER impatient. I jump into things whether or not God was leading me in that direction, and I sometimes put my own wants in front of his plans for me. Because of this, I've put myself in situations that wouldn't have happened if I would have just stopped thinking about what I wanted, but instead, listened to what God was telling me.
Only a few months out of high school, I feel so different. College has definitely been an eye-opening and heart-opening experience for me, spiritually and mentally. In this short amount of time, I've learned who I really am and who I was all along. I've learned that God is in control and won't let me down. Most importantly, I've learned that it's okay to be single.
So whether or not I am in a relationship, I'll never be single. Like Rachel, I will always and forever be in a committed relationship with the Lord, the one who guides my feet to where they need to be.
And I am beyond ecstatic.
If you haven't read it yet, put my blog on hold, and take 3 minutes to read hers. The link is here:
http://convergemagazine.com/single-waiting-9283/
Read it? Good. Now we can proceed.
'Single and not waiting' is one of the best pieces I've ever read. Rachel goes on to talk about her singleness and how in today's society, being single is like a disease, how your life begins when you wake up next to your spouse everyday, and how she believes God owes her a boyfriend.
Being a single, young woman in 2014, I fully understand her conflictions. Although I am a recent college student, and only 18 years old, I can see how she may believe that all of these things are true. I sometimes too feel as though being single is comparative to a disease.
Ever since I was old enough to understand the concept of love, love has always been on my radar. Throughout my years in school, particularly 9th-12th grade, I dreamt of having that perfect boyfriend: tall, Christian, honest, good with kids, respectful, etc. But "Mr. Perfect" never showed up in all those years.
Many times, I would come to believe that it was my fault for my "Singleness Disease". I would tell myself things like "Mary, maybe you should be more athletic", "Stop talking so much. You're so annoying", and "Oh gosh, he's looking at me. Don't screw things up, again." I soon came to believe that these phrases were all true.
Other times, when the clock would hit 11:11, I would instantly wish for things like "I wish for a boyfriend before the end of (9th, 10th, etc) grade." Or things like "I wish that I get a date for Homecoming or Prom this year." I felt that without a relationship status on Facebook, I was an outcast.
Why am I bringing back an old, dreadful memory from my high school years? To make a point. Being single is more common than people think, including myself.
Being raised a committed Christian, Catholic to be specific, I believe that being patient and waiting for the right one physically and emotionally, is what God wants us to do. Now, that's all fine and dandy, expect for the fact that I'm SUPER impatient. I jump into things whether or not God was leading me in that direction, and I sometimes put my own wants in front of his plans for me. Because of this, I've put myself in situations that wouldn't have happened if I would have just stopped thinking about what I wanted, but instead, listened to what God was telling me.
Only a few months out of high school, I feel so different. College has definitely been an eye-opening and heart-opening experience for me, spiritually and mentally. In this short amount of time, I've learned who I really am and who I was all along. I've learned that God is in control and won't let me down. Most importantly, I've learned that it's okay to be single.
So whether or not I am in a relationship, I'll never be single. Like Rachel, I will always and forever be in a committed relationship with the Lord, the one who guides my feet to where they need to be.
And I am beyond ecstatic.
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